Are you being stalked?

CONTENT WARNING: Content May Be Offensive or Disturbing to Some Audiences.This article or section, or pages it links to, contains information about assault, suicide, abuse, violence or murder. Reader discretion is advised.

Real quick to better understand where I’m coming from. I have C-PTSD with anxiety and depression from over a decade of abuse (mental and physical), assault, and rape. There are reasons why I’m a gun carrying, pit bull owning, very aware woman. I have learned rather recently to not apologize for my mental struggles or my reasoning for my behavior. It’s not up for discussion or debate. It happened and I’m trying to get right with a lot. My writing and art are therapeutic for me. I try to encourage others because it’s taken me a long time for me to post, comment, and recently started sharing other posts and would like others to continue with their goals.

Due to recent events, I thought that this would be a good time to post about safely blogging. If you are like me I use my writing to be creative, heal, and encourage others. Unfortunately, sometimes bloggers intended purpose behind a post or comment is taken and read in an extremely different manner. So, yes, bloggers can be stalked, harassed, threatened, gas-lighted, browbeaten, hate-campaigned (including employing other bloggers) and so forth. I did some research and found that it’s more common than what people realize. Some basics:

  • Write under a pen name (Hi guys, I’m Jo)
  • Guard your privacy (choose wisely what is shared)
  • Edit background information from pictures (Is that my license plate?)
  • Delete GPS data from photos (Umm…huh?)
  • Let other bloggers know what happened-privately (Not in the comments but contact forms are nice)
  • Save emails and screenshots in case of escalations (I’m NOT responsible for your behavior)
  • Check your ‘Offline Security’ (The local PD are aware and my dogs are too!)
  • Comments need approval (You said what?)

Some Places for Tips
Blog Stalkers
Get Safe
Web Hosting Secrets

I have included those links so you are able to recognize warning signs and where to beef up your security. Local law enforcement in your area can be contacted and there are computer crime units that can help. When I thought that removing them as a follower would help it only made things worse. Ignoring the behavior only fueled their need. I encourage a lot of people to write and follow their dreams however big or small they may be. I gave some advice. Emails were sent (under a pen name) then WHAM! My first warning sign was a statement that they don’t handle being left all that well.  After I wasn’t commenting on their posts as often I received an email. Then their emotions leaked where they weren’t supposed too. Then the final email blamed me for everything including their behavior and thought process. There is a small hate campaign started but that’s ok because I’m going to be ok. I refused to cower this time. I spoke out and taking action. I’m still going to write and share.

There is a huge list of sites that can help with cyberstalking, cyber crimes, and victim support. If you need help please reach out to someone. The help is there.


18 thoughts on “Are you being stalked?

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  1. Your response to this person’s disgusting actions are inspiring.
    The struggles we face, whether external, internal, or completely random are part of what make us beautiful, even if what happened was ugly. Never apologize for being yourself and (expletive) whoever’s doing this to you.
    Hang in there!

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    1. Thank you. I wrote this so other bloggers are aware that something like this can happen, it’s never their fault, and to seek necessary help. It horrible that there are people that are behind a screen and do this but this is the society we live in. Thank you for your comment and the encouragement 🙂

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  2. Great tips and resources! Thanks for sharing! It so unfortunate how such a small subset of people make it so everyone needs to be guarded and secretive…But that’s reality.


  3. Excellent post. I haven’t looked, but do any of the WordPress training materials cover any of these things? It’s easy to get lulled into thinking everyone here is safe; your words and experience were a stark reminder it isn’t necessarily that way. It sucks to think we only learn this if we’re forced to face it. It shouldn’t be that way.

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  4. Sorry this happens to anyone. Every day there is just so much to take in, and then being the brunt of someone else’s BS (because it is THEIRS)…

    Keep spreading the word.

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  5. Thanks for writing about this issue. It’s why my coauthored blog is private. I tried blogging public even tried a hidden blog and had enormous problems. Our account here at WP was hacked twice and WP doesn’t respond other than to say change the password and make the account private.

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    1. I think blogging is a great artisic platform but there are always someone that will abuse the ease of access to another person. My blacklist is just getting longer and longer with IP addresses, emails, and names. All I can say is keep trying to do what you’re passionate about and be as vigilant as possible.

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